FAQ or Answers to Questions
Please take a little time to read this important information before making an appointment.
What are your opening hours?
Daily between 1 and 8 p.m. (latest appointment ca. 7 p.m.)
Spontaneous appointments are sometimes still possible. However, it’s better that you reserve your massage appointment in time (at least one day in advance, better 2-5 days)
I am not giving more than 2 massages per day, so that I can be present and with my full attention and energy with you only.
Holiday and Continuing Education Times 2018
Due to trainings or private absence, I cannot arrange massage appointments at the following times:
- 14.-22. April – Training Relaxation Therapist (Seminars “Progressive Muskelentspannung” and “Autogenes Training”) in Freiburg
- 27. Mai – 8. Juni (private)
- 4.-22. Juli (private)
Basics - What's important for me to know?
I do not offer sexual services, but rather pleasant and relaxing touches. Please do not misunderstand my offers and read this FAQ page (questions and answers) before asking for an appointment. All my massages are one-way-giving massages. I do not offer exchange or special erotic services.
Please reserve your appointment in time to fully enjoy my services.
In all VENUSIA Massages, it’s about your relaxation, your contemplation. The more you remain with your attention within yourself, the deeper and more beautiful are your experiences.
Difference between Tantra and Erotic Massage – and the question about the “Happy End”
The difference between a Tantra and an Erotic Massage can be described as follows: In a Tantra Massage it is about the WHOLE HUMAN BEING – his body, soul, and spirit. For me, a Tantra Massage is a spiritual-sensual massage, therefore it is embedded in a little ritual with meditation and special atmosphere.
I do not use the term “Happy End”. The whole massage may be enjoyed as a “Happy Massage”. Sexual excitement, erection and ejaculation are okay and allowed. These physical reactions are just natural and can occur as a consequence of the atmosphere, the relaxation and the gentle touches. However, there is no goal and no enforcement. A Tantra Massage is generally an unintentional massage.
Shaving intimate area
If you would like to receive a Tantra or Tao Massage, please shave or trim your intimate area. It’s way more pleasant and smooth for both the receiver and the giver to massage with warm oil on a shaved or shortened area.
Since this detail has become of importance for me as the giver, please confirm this with your inquiry for an appointment.
You may take a shower in my rooms, but of course it’s also good when you already arrive showered.
If you – especially in the summer – have the tendency to sweat and to produce odour, I ask you to use an anti-transpirant like HydroFugal after your shower. Of course, I have everything necessary in the house.
This is simply a recommendation, if you have problems with callus or unhappy toenails. Men are also increasingly consulting medical foot care. This is wellness for you and it makes your feet happy and healthy.
A request to the smokers
As an ex-smoker I fully understand this habit. However, I am extremely odor-sensitive since I quit smoking many years ago. During a massage with me, the physical closeness is quite large depending on the massage. Therefore I have the request to you to make sure that you do not smell so much of smoke.
What is a Tantra Massage?
A Tantra Massage is a soothing, sensual full-body massage that is performed with warm oil in a relaxing atmosphere. The special feature of this massage is that it accepts the person as a whole – including spirit, soul, mind, emotions, and of course the physical body. All parts of the body, including the intimate area, are included in the massage.
The effect of a Tantra Massage can be deeply relaxing, inspiring and soothing. A trance-like experience may happen or a deep relaxation with pleasant aftereffects. Feelings can come to the surface, new inspirations have space. The less expectations you have and the more open-minded you come, the more likely it is that you have an intense, beautiful experience.
The VENUSIA Oriental Massage Center currently offers Tantra Massages for men only.
What is a Lingam Massage?
The Lingam Massage is a sensual massage of the front part of the body. Like in the longer Tantra Massage, the Lingam Massage is given very gently, slowly and sensitively with warm oil. The conclusion of this sensual journey with warm oil in a relaxing atmosphere is the massage of your intimate area, in Tantra called “Lingam”.
Doesn’t Tantra simply mean sex?
Tantra in general is a way of living, a way of thinking, a way of being and a path to spiritual awareness. It has to do with unconditional love and with transcending life experiences by choosing the non-dual way. No judgement, no criticism, but rather acceptance and love for all that is. Sexuality is a natural part of life, a part of being a human being, therefore it’s included and allowed to live sensuality and sexuality in a tantric sense.
A Tantra Massage is just a part of what is called Tantra. It includes all body parts, but NO sexual service is connected. It is about the passive enjoyment and acceptance of touches and caresses. A tantric massage is not a medical massage, although a profound healing effect can be possible through dedication and relaxation.
The roles of the person who gives and of the person who receives are clearly defined and separated from each other.
What happens when I am coming for a massage?
After your arrival, I offer you something to drink and we talk a little bit to get to know each other. If you want, you can have a shower before the massage. Then we go into my massage room. It is warm, smells good and is completely silent except for the soft background music. I lead you through a meditative greeting ritual and speak some calming words. This helps you to relax and to completely arrive within yourself, in the room and in the here and now. Then you lie down and I begin the massage with tender touches. I slowly spread warm oil on your body. Depending on the massage type, I start on the front of the body or on the back. All body parts are touched slowly and sensually. We do not talk with each other during the massage, but you can, of course, express what you want to express when you feel the need. After the massage is finished, you can relax and then either take a shower or rub the oil in your skin with a towel. The oil is good for the skin – you can take it with you. When you are ready, you take on your clothes again. You meet me again as we did in the beginning. You may drink a glass of water or a cup of tea and share some words with me, before we say goodbye.
What do you wear during a massage?
In a Tantra Massage you as my guest are naked – so I give the massage naked, too.
Very important: All massages are not about stimulating or intensifying your excitement through external stimuli. It has to do with fairness, trust and equivalence that I as the giver and you as the receiving person are naked. The deepest relaxation and the most pleasant enjoyment of a Tantra Massage is usually experienced when you keep your eyes closed and when you focus your attention on yourself.
May I touch or observe you during the massage?
I ask you to keep your eyes closed during the massage and to fully allow yourself to enjoy your inner experiences and to feel the gentle touches with warm oil on your whole body. The nakedness of the masseuse during Tantric massages is NOT to serve the erotic stimulation through visual stimuli, but is rather an expression of fairness and equivalence between the giver and the receiver.
I invite you to fully enjoy the passive devotion and to completely relax. Enjoy this special experience of passively receiving tender touches.
Do I have an orgasm during the massage?
In a Tantra Massage, all parts of the body are touched and massaged. It is natural that excitement may arise. An orgasm is natural as well and may happen by itself, but it does not have to come. You may also enjoy your massage as a wonderful time in which you are touched in a unique way. It is likely that you experience your massage as at least as beautiful as a sexual contact.
Isn’t it exciting for you as well when the man gets an erection?
No. However, since I am a sensual, sensitive woman, of course I have different feelings depending on the massage guest and my ability to give may slightly vary depending on personal sympathy, but that does not mean that intimate contacts are possible in connection with a massage. I absolutely separate massages from private contacts and ask you to respect my limits.
I am fully focused on causing you a soothing, relaxing experience. That makes me happy and does me good, too.
What is the Tao Massage?
The Tao Massage is the most sensual and slowest of all full-body massages. It is energetically balancing and deeply relaxing. By its tender intensity and beneficial effect on body, soul and spirit, it can solve blockages and may have healing effects of the physical body, the emotional area or the consciousness, especially when applied repeatedly.
The special feature of this massage is its clear structure and slowness. The process was developed by the Tao experts Stephen Russel and Jürgen Kolb and is based on the Taoist system of meridian theory and yin and yang (male and female principles). The Tao massage has been thoroughly thought through in order to alternate phases of excitation, relaxation, stillness, and balance.
The Venusia Oriental Massage Center currently offers the Tao Massage for men only.
What is a Body-to-Body-Massage?
A Body-to-Body-Massage is a heavenly full-body-massage given on the futon. In addition to my hands and arms, I temporarily use my whole body. The last part of this very sensual massage is a lingam massage.
If you would like to receive a Body-to-Body-Massage, you must know some details:
- The VENUSIA Oriental Massage centers currently offers the Body-to-Body-Massage for men only.
- An appointment for this massage is possible on individual agreement and after personal contact through a previous Lingam or Tantra Massage.
- The rules are the same like in all other massages: The Body-to-Body-Massage is a one-way giving massage that you may deeply enjoy passively.
The blind enjoyment
What is the "Blind Enjoyment"?
“The Blind Enjoyment” deepens your sensual massage experience, as your sense of sight remains passive for the duration of your stay with the help of an eye mask.
The sense of sight is a very important sensory organ that often dominates the other sense organs. In the “blind enjoyment” which can be applied to any massage, you will automatically perceive all touches and sensations on your other sensory organs (hearing, smell, touch through the skin, taste) much finer and more intense. This supports your inner retreat and can cause new self-experiences.
Specifically, “Blind Enjoyment” means that you find an eye mask outside of my door. You put it on before you knock at the door. I open, take you by your hands and lead you into the massage room. I undress you slowly. You can feel safe and secure. Then you receive your massage “blindly”.
At the end I rub with a towel most of the oil from your body – the rest is good for your skin. If you want to take a shower, I’ll guide you to the bathroom (always with an eye mask – you wear it consistently until you leave my rooms). I’ll bring your clothes to the bathroom. After showering and getting dressed, you put the eye mask back on and knock on the door or send me a whats app. I’ll pick you up and lead you to the front door where we say good-bye.
Experience your massage even more sensual and intense by the total focus on your (non-visual) senses, sensations and feelings.
What is the Energetic-Tibetan Back Massage?
The Energetic-Tibetan Back Massage (also “Tibet-Massage” or simply “ET”) is a very gentle back massage which can have deep and beneficial effects just because of its gentleness.
This massage form has its origin in Tibetan monasteries. It has been developed by monks in order to restore the balance between body, soul and spirit. From psychosomatics, meanwhile we even know in our Western world that negative emotions and thoughts are sooner or later physically manifested. “Negative” feelings are for example fear, grief, anger, envy, hatred, jealousy, greed, and avarice, meaning all kinds of emotions that cause melancholy and a closed heart. “Negative” thoughts are for example beliefs and perspectives that express separation and resistance to other people, things, or circumstances, whether consciously or unconsciously.
Every pain sustained in the human system is yearning for energy and light to be transformed into love.
It is a great challenge to replace all judgment and criticism more and more with love and acceptance. This counts both for oneself as well as to thoughts about other people and situations.
Against this background, the Energetic-Tibetan Back Massage can help the recipient solve blockages stored in the body. The massage is so deeply relaxing that almost always trance-like consciousness states are noticeable. In this deep inner stillness, healing processes can be supported.
This special back massage consists of a few, very gentle massage touches, which follow a certain sequence and are repeated slowly. An essential module is the lemmniscate (horizontal eight, sign of infinity).
The Energetic-Tibetan Back Massage has a preventive and balancing effect and can also be used as a “burn-out prophylaxis”. On the physical as well as on the mental and spiritual level, this massage causes deep relaxation and well-being.
Although a single treatment is wonderfully beneficial, we recommend a series of 8-10 massages. This gives time to the inner processes and helps to become aware of the transforming effect of the “Tibetan Massage”.
The Energetic-Tibetan back massage is available for men and women on the massage couch.
What is a Relax Massage?
A Relax Massage simply serves for relaxation and wellbeing. In a pleasant atmosphere, I massage your body both tenderly and with a little pressure – I go by my feelings. I always use warm oil, because it feels so nice on the skin.. The massage can only be for the back, for the back side of the body or for the whole body. The intimate area is not included in the Relax Massage and will be covered respectfully.
I give Relax Massages to men and women.
What is a Spiritual Counseling?
In a relaxed conversation, you may express everything that moves you. An inspiring, harmonious exchange emerges by itself.
Tantra as a path
Relationships, partnerships, living as single
Challenges and crisis as chances for spiritual growth
Desires and hopes
Death, reincarnation, transformation processes
Love as the basis of creation
What do you mean with meditation?
The meaning of a meditation is the calming of thoughts as well as the immersion into silence and into the present moment. It is about the inner connection with the true self, the soul. Through a meditation, inspiration can emerge, answers to questions and solutions to problems can be found. But also the simple concentration can be soothing. It is like calming a troubled water – through the stillness the lake becomes mirror-smooth.
I offer meditations for two or in small groups by appointment.